#1. The True Best Friend. Your spouse of course. In my case my sweet husband Jeremy. Once you are married and have found your one true love, this becomes the only person in the world who will never judge you, lie to you, or get sick of you. Because of all the love you have for this person, you care for them more than anyone else in the world and they become your true best friend for forever.
#2. The oldest friend you have, that is still your friend today. It's easy to make friends when your moms are best friends and you grow up next door to each other. But because of growing up, moving and making lives for ourselves, the physical distance naturally puts distance on your friendship. Here is where being a good friend comes in. When you are thinking of this person, give them a call, shoot them a text or send them a sincere email. DON'T just look on their FB page to see what they are up to, call them, tell them you are thinking of them, make time for the conversation to let them know how much you love and care!
#3. Your childhood best friend. This is the friend that knew you through your worst stages, but was completely devoted and loyal to you. You would do everything together and spent so much time together that you believed you were basically the same person, and therefore, nothing would tear you a part. But, like I said before; distance caused by location, moving etc. naturally causes you to grow apart through time. You say you will call, and write every day, that turns into every week and soon, it's been a year and time to send another birthday message. Let's resolve to keep in touch, because these friends who knew you so well, probably still do and will love you forever.
#4. Friends you give up because you think it's the right thing to do. I had an amazing friend in my teen years that I could tell anything to, and hang out with every day and not feel the need for my own space. After a few years she did something that really hurt me, and she was not there when I needed her most, because she was focusing on her own life. This happens to the best of us in both cases. Friendships need to be nurtured, and this one was missing it's essential sunshine and waterings. I let this friend go for about 5 years. Over this period of time, I thought of her often and would secretly "check up" on her through asking others how she was doing or searching her FB page for clues. Eventually I decided to put the past in the past, suck in my pride, and apologize. Why you ask? Because if a friendship is going to work ,you need to always support the person, even if you don't support the situation. I care for her, even though she hurt me, she is still an amazing person and I like to be around amazing people. Some friends are good to let go forever, especially after you have given them chance after chance, But others I think deserve more patience.
#5. Your College Bestie. Maybe you have more than one, and I do have a ton of really good friends I made in College, but this one sticks out, she is one of a kind. We shared so many great experiences and adventures that I think about often. I just think she's a wonderful person, and I like wonderful people. She actually returns my calls, makes time to skype or write. These actions show she cares and I return the favor. Friends like this cheer you up, improve your life, reminisce with you, and will always tell you the truth.
#6. The ones you can't exactly hang out with anymore. It's just a rule- Once you get married, you should not hang out with the opposite sex, especially one-on-one. I've had a ton of "friend-boys" throughout my life, that have been amazing friends who I have shared great experiences with. Now that I'm married and Jer is my #1, I promised to be 100% loyal and devoted to him, which means I need to avoid situations with old "friend-boys" that could bring up past feelings if there ever were any. I'll always have a special place in my heart for these ones, and will care for them forever- I just show it in a different way now.
#7. High School AND College Besies: Long time friends that impacted choices you made in these important times. They are the people who helped shape and mold you into the person you are today. I value these friendships more than anything, and need to show it more through making extra efforts to get together and catch up.
#8. The Dynamic Duo's, trio's & Quartets! Experience, adventures, one on one's, late nights, road trips, drama and secrets shared. I have been lucky to have my own version of the sisterhood of the traveling pants and am proud to say we are all still pals!
#9. Current grown-up friends. I have been so blessed and lucky to be surrounded by awesome friends that both Jer and I can hang out together with, have parties with, take trips with or go on double dates together. I love making new friends and creating new memories together. Here's to the years to come!
#10. What kind of friend am I to you? Because I value the importance of friendship, in all shapes and forms, I know that I need to be a good friend myself. Return calls, make calls, act on promptings, share my life with them, tell the truth, be dependable, listen, care, give second and third chances, make effort to see them, be encouraging, always be positive, never judge and always be kind.
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